Most people know what they are doing and that is why they do it. Hinting that I am also for tolerating it. Perhaps, eventually, he will work on the outside. She does have some female issues but has flat out refused to try to get assistance with. I even left this up on the computer and asked her to read it while I was at work. Work schedules..
There is no passion or lust its just means to an end. Breast cancer is one concern. That should have been a red flag, but I responded by telling her to stop. We have probably had sex 5 time in the last seven years. We are not all the same, different things work for different people. My guess is they do at home as well which is self-defeating in your quest for more sex and intimacy with your wife.